Parents' guide
Start in a weekend. Keep it for years.
A practical playbook for running a fair, encouraging chore economy at home — with or without an app.
Six steps to a system that sticks.
- 01
Sit down together
Explain it as a family agreement, not a new rule. Let the kids help name the currency — Stars, Bucks, Gems, Tickets. Ownership starts here.
- 02
Pick 3–5 chores each
Start small and age-appropriate (see below). A few chores done well beat a long list that gets ignored.
- 03
Set the scale
Quick jobs 5–15 points, medium 20–40, big ones 50–100. Set your household’s default so every offer starts in the right place.
- 04
Agree what points are worth
Decide together what points can become — screen time, a family movie pick, an outing, or allowance (say, 100 Stars = $10). Write it down. Cash Out records every settlement.
- 05
Approve with words, not just points
When you tap Approve and pay, say exactly what they did well. Specific praise for effort is what turns a reward into a habit.
- 06
Review weekly, fade over time
Look at the ledger together once a week. When a chore has become routine, lower its points and keep the praise.
Chores by age
What they can handle — and what it might be worth.
Suggested starting points. Every child is different; adjust to fit yours.
Ages 4–6
- Make your bed5
- Set the table5
- Put toys away5
- Feed the pet5
- Match the socks5
Ages 7–9
- Load the dishwasher10
- Take the bins out10
- Water the plants10
- Fold your own laundry20
- Tidy your bedroom20
Ages 10–12
- Vacuum a room20
- Walk the dog25
- Clean the bathroom30
- Help cook dinner30
- Wash the car50
Ages 13–17
- Do your laundry, start to finish30
- Run a local errand30
- Mow the lawn60
- Cook a family meal60
- Clear out the garage80
The small things that make it work.
DoReward the jobs nobody loves.
Don’tPut points on reading for fun, drawing or play.
DoSay what they did well: “Every dish is in the rack.”
Don’tRely on “good job” or “you’re so smart.”
DoUse Send it back with a clear, kind reason.
Don’tTake away points they already earned as a punishment.
DoOffer Choice rewards so kids have a say.
Don’tUse chores themselves as a penalty.
Why these work — and the research behind them — is on The science of yes.[11][10]
Say it like this
Words that turn points into pride.
“You swept the whole garage and put the bikes on the hooks. That’s 80 Stars — thank you.”
“The floor looks great. The recycling still needs sorting — finish that and it’s done.”
“Sunday works. Thanks for telling me why — that’s exactly how to ask.”
“You’ve made your bed every day this month without a reminder. That’s just who you are now.”
General guidance for families, not professional advice. If you have concerns about your child's behavior or development, talk to your pediatrician.